00-Notes-Dimitri-My-Juggler-Method.pdf

These are my notes on „Dimitri – My Juggler Method“. I made these notes for myself, some parts

of the ebook might be misunderstood or left out, however I tried to pack as much useful information

in this document as possbile. I am not entirely happy with the layout right now, an update might

follow once I have more time to work on this document. I would love to hear some feedback.

By badabum

3 fundamental elements to classic JM

1. Make her interesting

- She has to be interesting enough to deserve your attention

- You are gentleman enough to help her to show herself to you in the best possible

way

- there are no boring people in the world

- proper structure for an elegant conersation: OEQ -> her answer -> your statement

- each statement consists of two parts: reward and relate; "I perspective"; vacuum ->

use vacuum more at beginning of convo and less at the end of conversation

2. Reward/ Relate

- Reward

- make her feel liked

- You are the man who gives approval wihtout seeking approval from others

- three things to reward

- what she says

- how she says it

- what she does while saying it

- reward as

- push/ pull

- verbal reward

- nonverbal rewards

- a smile

- touching

- Relate

- Relate to a topic

- good if same opinion, bad if different opinion

- Relate to an emotion

- she likes cats -> „i like motorcycles...“

- if what she says is negative first relate to negative emotion and then

switch from the negative emotion to the opposite positive one

3. Escalate

- probably the most important element!

- escalation is the continuous, conscious, deliberate act of deepening the rapport with

a woman

- counterintuitively the best way to deepen rapport is to break it and make your

partner in the converation invest her effort to building it

- it's rude not to escalate, she feels as if he keeps her at a disctance by being cold,

stuck-up and snobbish

- she wants him to become closer to her, she creates opportunities to do so

- by escalating you give a woman what she seeks - you confirm her desirability, you

validate her status as a female

- among the number of actions creating the escalation one is particularly important ->

the touch "kino"

- kino is not a problem, it's a solution

- touching must escalate -> start small (forearm p.e.) -> gradually proceed to

her shoulder, on the back, on the back of the neck, on the small of her back

and so on

- hand kino escalation: only touch a woman's hand and nothing else, begin

with the back of her hand, later hold her hand, squeeze it and see if she

squeezes back, put your fingers between hers, kiss her wrist softly, etc.

- touch is a reward, touch her after she says/does something cute or when she

opens up to you

- verbal reward/ relate

- also a form of escalation

- you make her want more of the same and make her work harder to deserve

your rewards - she will invest her efforts in building the rapport that you

would deliberately undermine again and again by push/ pull

- Demonstrating high value

- bragging does not work too well -> JM alternative: Disqualification (DQ)

- reveal your vulnerabilities to a woman you are speaking with

- by revealing your vulnerabilities to a woman you demonstrate that

you are perfectly comfortable with who you are

- women are used to men trying to show themselves in the best

possible way

- you don't want to be compared to the "perfect man"

Escalation: "there must be a flame under the pot all the time, toherwise the pot grows cold"

several phases of escalation in JM

- pre- escalation phase: approach

- critical phase

- Approach Anxiety -> confusion of a man whose mind and body have to deal with too many

tasks at a time

- solution: remove unnecessary obstructions by giving a full commitment to one task only_

the physical act of approach as such.

- don't confuse yourself by thinking of what you are going to say, deal with that after the

approach.

- Opening

- "nightgame" -> open with kino, kino comes before the words (and will continue

throughout the entire interaction)

- touch a woman on the outside of the arm (or leg if seated) and hold the contact for a few

moments

- verbal part

- difference night and daygame -> women in clubs and bars are open to meeting and

interacting with strangers, women in bookstores, health food markets and coffee

shops are more reserved. daygame requires a smoother, less obvious opening

- blank mind opening works best

- clear your mind completely and approach a woman and then say the very first thing

that comes to your mind

- Neutral phase (often wrongly called "platonic")

- kino and verbal opening begin this phase

- here the structure of the conversation is usually the least important consideration

- common that for a few moments you get to answer the questions from the set.

- if no one in the set asks questions you do

- use every opportunity to disqualify yourself, continue it throughout the interaction

- purpose of neutral phase: make people comfortable with the idea of you becoming a part of

their group

- don't get stuck in the neutral phase, keep it short

- move to asking them very light OEQ and initiate the question - answer - statement

structure (which will continue throughout the whole interaction)

- "who are you here with"

- Finally she makes a commitment by revealing a significant bit of the unique personal

information for the first time -> you place the second turning point of escalation: statement

of approval

- SOA: begins second phase of escalation:

- Personal

- during this phase Kino is used to deepen the rapport

- ask a series of increasingly personal OEQ, Reward/ Relate (every now and then use push/

pull as an indirect reward)

- "what's your relationship situation?"

- bring that topic up before she does "you know, I have a boyfriend"

- transition to the topic of relationships and it is easy to transition to the topic of

human sexuality

- at some point she will say something that you genuinely find sexy about her

- third turning point of escalation: statement of intent "I like the way you.... I find it

sexy about you"

- never hesitate to repeat it if she asks what was it that you just said

- "I", "You" and "sexy" must be in it

- she either reacts favorably or she hides her reaction (which is also a sign of

acceptance)

- Sexual

- now the purpose of kino is to give a woman physical pleasure, to make her feel good.

- back rub, neck rub, running fingers through her hair, caressing her tenderly anywhere she

wants

- even more personal with your OEQ and reward/ relate, ask her questions about sex

- come up with a convenient reason to move the woman away from the group of her friends

- build up sexual tension by creating sexual barriers -> impose certain obstacles between you

and her - surmountable obstaces

- Close

- #C

- email close

- kc

- instant date close

- date close

- always stay with a woman for some time after you close her and build more rapport

(otherwise she might think you just took her to "score")

- don't make a big deal out of it, don't make it special to you

the most important principle of JM -> it's all about having fun

- "routines" for relating

- Yeah.... I know exactly what you mean...

- I'm like that too....

- I can (totally, absolutely, positively, etc.) relate to that...

- I know where you are coming from...

- I feel your pain

- Yes, it's like this with me too....

- If you want a woman to have sex with you, you must give her the emotions you want her to

experience, in a certain sequence

- various channles, p.e. tone of your voice or through your body language

- also through words

- direct questions

- when was the last time you felt perfectly free

- indirect questions

- when was the last time something was so funny that you couldn't suppress

your laughter and didn't care if anyone was listening?

- direct statement

- I feel free every time i breathe fresh air, because it reminds me that I quit

smoking and am now free from the addiction! It's a big thin for me!

- indirect statement

- I feel great riding my motorcycle as fast as I can along the empty highway,

not caring about anything in the whole world

- safe, friendyl, comfort, excitement, fun, humor, desire, fulfilmment, pleasure, adventorous,

risky, naughty, curious, relaxed, tense, freedom, thrilled, irresponsible, intoxicated with

you, in love, desperatly craving pleasure, sexual tension, aroused, horny,

- don't be aggressive/ desperate

- usually the man sees himself as a taker. he want's something that a woman can give him. The

notion of a man as a taker is wrong and useless. It must be eliminated and replaced by the opposite

notion: men must see themselves as generous, joyful givers.

- a man gives to a woman the feeling of sexual relief, which she craves from a man much

more intensely than a man craves it from her

- a man gives to a woman the joy of male companionship, which she craves as intensely as

the man craves the female companionship from a woman.

- a woman craves to be appreciated as a woman and she craves to be appreciated as a person

- everything related to giving a woman the feeling of sexual relief makes her feel

appreciated as a person

- everything related to giving a woman the male companionship makes her feel appreciated

as a person

- it's equally essential that she makes you feel appreciated as a man and as a person. You

must feel confident that she likes your body AND your soul

- You should stay with a woman only if she loves and respects you

- If both of you admire each other spiritually, but only one of you makes the other feel

physically appreciated, the person whose body is neglected suffers the pangs of unrequited

love. In fact it has very little to do with friendship, because true friendship must always be

fair

- to make a woman feel appreciated as a sexual and spiritual being you must find out who

she is as a sexual and spiritual being.

- I would not recommend to greet a woman with anything too smart or too complicated, keep it

simple, do not try to be too creative

- after opening change subject, there are two subjects you want to talk about: who she is as a woman

and as a person and who you are as a man and as a person

- "you help a woman to find out who you are" -> she must invest effort in finding out who you are,

if you simply make the information available to her, she might not be interested in processing that

information

- "you help her to become curious about who you are", she has the right to choose what she wants

- how you can achieve this:

- find out as much as possible about her

- reveal as little as possible about yourself

- we can only be curious about things we know a little about. We are not curious

about things that are completely familiar, neither are we curious about things we

know nothing about.

- three principles of personal storytelling

- when you talk about yourself, be concise

- begin with the most boring things, gradually progress to reveal increasingly more

interesnting ones, keep the facts you find truly fascinating about yourself for as

much later as you can

- tell your stories one small bit of a time

what is love?

I love a woman, so I want her to be happy. But she chooses her happiness. If she is happy with me,

my love is fulfilled. If she is truly happy without me - or with someone other than me - my love is

fulfilled

the pick-up community is continuously brainwashing the huge army of insecure men for the

purpose of creating stable, easy to manipulate market for their products and services. The

community gives such men the illusory validation and illusory fulfillment, by channeling all their

efforts into a vain activity that requires bits of fake knowledge those men otherwise would not need.

- the classic "brain washed" PUA does not realize that he would get laid anyway by just

going out there and talking to a woman.

- the leaders invest a lot of effort into making the courthsip seem very difficult

- A MAN DOES NOT NEED TO DO ANYTHING SPECIAL IN ORDER TO HAVE SEX

WITH A WOMAN HE FINDS ATTRACTIVE

Approach Anxiety

- is an illusion to make courtship appear difficult

- two fundamental types of fear

- Artificial Fear

- man made, also known as intimidation or suspense

- why does a person believe that a man can be easily motivated by fear? because that

person himself is easily motivated by fear.

- when someone tries to intimidate me, to trigger fear in me, i know that he is a

coward

- Natural fear

- it is a biological pre-programmed reaction to a dangerous situation

- the natural fear is instantaneous, and more often than not is experienced after the

event.

- Resistance

- You want something

- You take action to achieve what you want

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