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The Control Book

By Peter Masters

1999-2002 by Peter Masters

Contents

1 Introduction 1

1.1 What do you mean by dominance & submission? . . ....... 5

1.2 Conscious, subconscious and unconscious . . . . . . ....... 9

1.3 Predispositions . . . . . . ..................... 17

1.4 Evolution . . ............................ 27

2 Transfer of control 33

2.1 The process . ............................ 35

2.2 Consolidating control . . . ..................... 43

2.3 Losing control ............................ 49

2.4 Reward and encouragement ..................... 55

2.5 Giving back control . . . . ..................... 59

2.6 Focus of control . . . . . . ..................... 63

2.7 Safewords . . ............................ 67

2.8 Control-taking and privacy ..................... 71

3 Communication 75

3.1 Division of labour . . . . . ..................... 77

3.2 Submissive logic . . . . . ..................... 81

3.3 Person-to-person . . . . . ..................... 85

3.4 Three . . . . ............................ 89

4 Management 93

4.1 Two different types of control . . . . . . .............. 95

4.2 Planning and management ..................... 99

4.3 Ritual . . . . ............................109

4.4 Structure . . . ............................113

4.5 Ownership . . ............................119

4.6 Delegation . . . . ..........................123

5 Discussion topics 127

5.1 Closure . . . . . ..........................129

5.2 Magic . . . . . . ..........................131

5.3 Satiation . . . . . ..........................133

5.4 Humour . . . . . ..........................135

5.5 Rhythm . . . . . ..........................137

5.6 Feeling controlled ..........................139

5.7 Consequences of orders . . . . ...................141

5.8 Difference between a slave and a submissive ............143

5.9 Cookbook dominance . . . . . ...................145

5.10 Less than open . ..........................147

5.11 What place love? ..........................149

5.12 Hard and soft limits . . . . . . ...................151

1. Introduction

Chapter 1

Introduction

Mastery isn’t just telling someone what to do. It’s also creating

the environment in which your submissive will do what you want even

without being told. It is creating an environment in which they only

have the one choice, and that is of doing what you want.

I want to come right out and say that this isn’t a deﬁnitive textbook. That’s not why

I wrote it. I’m a sadist at heart and I have learned that one of the cruelest things you

can do to someone is to teach them something and thereby cause them to question

their ignorance and long-held beliefs. Seeing as you’re actually looking at this

voluntarily then it’s likely that you’re not the sort who’s going to be particularly

traumatised by being made to think. That’s a shame, but on the off chance that

you’re looking at these pages by mistake I’m going to attempt, in the following

pages and chapters, to stir up some new thoughts and cause you to reﬂect on many

things that you’ve probably just taken for granted. I hope that by the end of the

book you’ll have a new understanding and appreciation for what control actually

is—particularly in the context of BDSM—and how to use it.

In all sincerity I don’t expect you to agree with everything I have to say in

this book. Your experience and your preferences might cause you to look at what

I say and decide it’s the biggest load of rubbish that modern waste-management

techniques have ever had to deal with. No matter. If it succeeds in at least making

you reﬂect on your own views about the things I talk about—even if you just

end up conﬁrming your earlier views—then I’ll be able to go to the great writers’

home in the sky happy.

At various times in the production of this epic tome I have had different ideas

about what to call it. At one stage I was feeling a bit disconcerted over the number

1999-2002 by Peter Masters

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