Did you ever instantly know, you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time? (Point)
Me it usually takes a bit longer
You know, I saw the most interesting show on the discovery channel last night.
They were interviewing people who make their living designing attractions for amusement parks like Disneyland and Universal Studios.
Isn´t that interesting what you all can do.
Well, he said when you stop and imagine your ideal attraction. He said there are three elements involved that make up the ideal attraction. (point)
First, when you EXPERIENCE the ideal attraction, you enter A HIGH STATE OF AROUSAL. You know that first long slow vertical climb on a roller coaster. And you can feel the adrenaline pounding through your body. The closer you get to the peak the faster your heartbeats. Your breathing starts to come faster and faster and as you are reaching the peak and you begin to go down you are screaming with excitement. You just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH ALL OVER.
(It´s like as that ride is climbing up and up you can feel your heart pounding with excitement you feel your breathing comes quickly sometimes you're even gasping, panting you feel the blood rushing through every part of your body and as that excitement and tension is building and building you reach the top of the ride and then as it crests you just release it in a flood of excitement. Sometimes your screaming your so turned on)
And they said there has to be a sense of overall safety. You have to know that this attraction is so well designed you are not getting hurt. And because you feel totally safe you feel completely free to indulge and let go in all these exciting feelings.
And then they said finally, that another element to an ideal attraction is; There’s got to be a sense of overall fascination. This ride has to have so many twist and turns, you just FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point down) multiple times; as soon as you GET OFF you want to climb right back on.
Can you (squeeze her hand) feel that... it’s pretty close to the way it is?
When you imagine how much fun it is to ride a roller coaster or any other kind of amusement park ride…, isn't that the totally accurate description of your ideal attraction to another person.
You know that kind of wonderful click right there (right in the center of who you are) that just makes you feel totally drawn to this person and on one hand you fell totally safe and totally comfortable like you were meant to know them as if you've known them forever.
And on the other hand you feel all the exciting feelings you really want to be with them. Like you ever have been waiting for someone to pick you up for an evening. All of a sudden you hear a knock on the door and you have heart leaps. And you feel the adrenaline rushing through your body. The closer you get to the door the more excited you are. And when you open the door what you want the most is right here, right in front of you. Can you feel that would be an amazing thing to experience.
— Have you ever thought about the difference between attraction and being in love?
— What do you mean?
— Well actually I think they take place in different settings. I mean attraction is what you experience when you are in the presence of that person, (point) and you are looking at them, and you maybe think to yourself... (pause) thoughts, images and you know what that feels like, right?
— Sure.
— But falling in love, well I think you do that when you are not even in that persons presence. I mean, can you remember a time when you just totally fell for someone?
-Yeah.
-And as you sit there looking at me, thinking about what I´m saying, you can remember what it felt like, right?
-Sure.
-Yeah, but here´s how it happenend. You spent some time with that person (point) and then you went home, and you picture that person in your mind (draw a frame around your face)
-Yes
-And then maybe you start to list all the qualities about him you really like: He is so smart, he is so funny, he is so fun to be with, whatever they were, whatever the things are you really want and enjoy that in someone (point), right?
— Yeah
— And then you get that feeling, right in the pit of your stomach, right in your solar plexus, that just starts to spread out and let you know you really, really love this person? (point) I mean, can you feel that as I describe it to you?
— Oh yeah.
— And then, here´s the kicker... you start saying his name out loud. You start bringing it up in coversations with your friends, and maybe even you dance around the house, singing it if you are a real goof? Right?
— Totally.
— See. I think everything including falling in love is a process. And when you do that process with someone, (point to yourself) and really let it happen, that´s when the magic takes over, the magic we´re really all looking for. Of course sometimes that can take months, but the real magic is when it happens instantly and you know it right away. That´s an incredible feeling, isn´t it?
— See everything has a structure to it. For example, think about someone you really like for a second? Ok? Got that? Now, point to where you seem to see that picture.
(Let her point)
— Right there? Ok. Now think of someone you don´t like at all. Ok? Point to where you see that.
— Now watch... take that picture of the person you don´t like... and try as hard as you can to move it over into the place where you see the picture of the person you don´t like.
— See that? It doesn´t want to go does it? Because you need a way to sort out who you really like (point to yourself... why miss an opportunity) from whom you don´t. Isn´t that neat?
— Yeah! Cool! Wow!(Or any othr similar stupid female expostulation!)
— Now see, there´s another difference in the way you make pictures in your head. For example, you ever been on a roller coaster?
— Yeah!
— Ok, watch. I want you to remember a time you were on a rollercoaster, and I want you to see yourself sitting in the roller coaster car, riding up and down on the roller coaster. Just do that for a few seconds.
-- Ok... now we´re gonna do it again, but this time, instead of seeing yourself, see what you´d actually see through your own eyes if you were there, going on that roller coaster ride.
— Now, of those two, which one felt more real, actually gave you the feeling of being there?
— The second one!!
— Of course... because you can see yourself in a memory, or see what you actually saw. When you see what you actually saw it really helps you to get the feelings of how it actually felt!
— Wow! this is fascinating!!!
— Isn´t it? Now look... here´s the next piece of this and it´s called anchoring. So, here, try this... close your eyes... you remember a time when you were feeling exquisite pleasure in your body???
— MMhhh... yes.
— Ok, I want you to see what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel how it felt. And then those feelings of exquisite pleasure really reach their peak, just wiggle your little finger for me.
(Watch to see she´s really in state... her face will change, breathing quicken, etc when she wiggles that finger, reach over, touch her wrist and say,:)
— Perfect. And just hang on for a minute to how good it feels to feel perfect. (Keep holding her wrist)
— Ok. Open eyes. Close them again. And go through it again... see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel how it felt. And when those feelings reach their peak, wiggle that finger. (Repeat the anchor process).
— Ok, one more time (run her through it one more time)
— Ok, open your eyes. Now, the theory behind anchoring is, that if someone is in a certain state, and you combine that state with a touch or sound, when you repeat that touch they will go back into that state. So if I were to say to you, you know, I find that when I spend time with someone, and I really start to feel that sense of incredible connection, maybe then you can just feel perfect (fire off the anchor by touching her wrist). And that feels great doesn´t it?
— Oh yeah!
— Isn´t this interesting? Isn´t the mind really cool? Now notice something else: you ever just fall head over heals in love with someone (point to yourself... never miss an opportunity)
— Well, as you are remembering that time, point where you see that picture!
(Let her point it out)
— Ok... and you are really feeling perfect right now. aren´t you? (fire off the anchor again!)
— So watch... (point to where she falls in love). As you think about that space as I talk to you... as you allow my voice to come from that space... you might find it´s like you want to create an opening for my voice... an opening that allows the deep, rich warmth of my voice to just penetrate your thoughts, and spread that warmth all through your body... sure feels great, doesn´t it?
— God yes!!
Proceed with quotes
Can you remember the last time you had a peak experience?
Like climbing a mountain... or watching a beautiful sunset... or listening to beautiful music or the first time you looked at someone (point) and recognized you really really love this person (point).
What was that like?
Her: Sure...
That's really interesting.
You know, I find it so neat how YOUR MINE can be going in one direction, you know in an everyday ordinary state, and then SUDDENLY for
whatever MYSTERIOUS reason, you just GO INTO A MUCH DIFFERENT STATE. . . a state where your MINE is so in touch with the MYSTERY and the WONDER and the beauty of life (point).
And sometimes it's like in YOUR MINE, you just SLOW TIME DOWN, and the whole world stops, as you just LET YOURSELF GO WITH THIS (point).
Can you FEEL THAT is an incredible thing to experience WITH ME NOW I know that for a lot of people different things can trigger that.
"Have you ever been. totally fascinated with someone? Like. may be as you were there. Looking at him and you started to listen carefully... and it was like his voice just seemed to. wrap itself around you. And the rest of your environment just. disappeared. Your entire world. everything you saw. became. what was right in front of you. And everything that he described. you found. that you can picture it. clearly. So, you know... If he were to talk about... a romantic walk... on a moonlit beach... with your perfect partner... you could just see yourself there. with him. just enjoying what that would feel like... And with every breath you take. you can smell the ocean. or that man's scent... You can hear the waves crash. and feel the sand tickle your feet as you walk... And if you were to. stop for a moment. and see the moonlight. reflected on that person's face. you can almost feel the magic. of that first kiss... that first, soft brush of your lips against his...
So soft, you're not even sure you're kissing yet... And it's like all those emotions. and feelings. and passions. enfold, in that one, first, special kiss... just waiting to be explored and made real... "
[Then KISS her for godsakes! Don't leave the poor girl alone in
dreamland like that. The first time I tried this, I was so amazed at the response that I just stopped and sat there, looking at her pretty DDB face for like five minutes... ]
I was just sitting here thinking about taking a vacation, if you could imagine your idea vacation spot what would it be like?
(Stop and let her talk) You know I think its so interesting how people connect with their hopes and their desires and their daydreams right ... I was reading this article the other day about compulsions and it got me to thinking about the difference between compulsion and anticipation.
I mean you ever come home from a hard day a work and the boss was a jerk and kept piling the papers up on you desk and its like all you can think about is dropping your clothes and getting into that steamy hot bath or shower.That's like before you even step in you can already feel that heat working its way through every muscle in your body and all your frustrations just
drop away and all you can feel is the pleasure of that warmth just shooting thought every part of you. And then there's that moment of sliding in where you really let that pleasure take you and it just feels great doesn't it?
Yeah well do you like chocolate? (Is there a food where when you see it, you absolutely have to put it in your mouth.)
I mean, can you stop and remember a time when you, it's like you see that piece of chocolate and your mouth is already tasting it before you even put it in you can already taste that sweetness against your tongue and you can feel the special rich texture of it against your tongue as well. You know that texture that really good chocolate has. And then there's that moment, that moment when the first molecule of chocolate touches your tongue and you know it's inside your mouth and you just want to keep it there because it's so rich and so good. And there's that extra special warmth when you swallow that sweetness down.
Or then maybe, you know like sometimes you meet someone and you're really attracted to them and you both know it and there's that moment when your eyes lock, it's that special look just before you kiss before the very first time and you're trembling with anticipation and your heart is pounding because you're thinking about how good it's going to be. It's like every physical moment of that relationship is enfolded or rolled into that first touch of the lips and there's that excitement, with that first soft contact of the lips where you don't even know if you are touching or not but then, oh man, it's like a jolt of electricity all through you.
See I think what happens is the conscious mind goes down into the unconscious and brings back up all these thoughts, images, desires and fantasies, and you may think those thoughts are above me, but really I think they're blow me because they're coming from a much deeper part of your mine. Aren't
you?it
You what I think is interesting is how people become fascinated with other people. You ever feel a sense of incredible fascination with someone. My friend Carlene was telling me that when she starts to listen carefully, really look, and hang on every word, she starts to experience that total fascination. And its like the rest of the environment just disappears, and the entire world becomes this face, this voice that's speaking. I think when you focus in just like that and allow that absolute attention to take fold, that's when you can begin to experience that overpowering fascination you agree.
You ever find yourself feeling absolutely fascinated and also thoroughly attracted to someone. Now with me, that happens rarely. But its nice to feel that way. Maybe to the point where you feel so comfortable and at ease with this person that you just open yourself up completely. And as you are feeling those feelings, even though you may not have been attracted to them at first, you find yourself beginning to notice things that are very special. Gosh, when you do that . . . with me, time just slows down and you allow yourself to ponder the thoughts and savor the warm glowing feelings. And the more you think about it, the more you look forward to spending time with them again because you can easily picture a time in the future, perhaps even months from now, feeling so glad you had met this person after experiencing all the incredible fun times shared and looking back on today as having been the start of it.
You ever been listening to something someone is saying and you just suddenly find yourself becoming totally absorbed in what this person is saying. You just begin to feel completely fascinated and its like you become so focused on what's being said that its like the entire world disappears and everything becomes this face, this voice that's speaking. And as you tune in completely, you might begin to notice that time just fly's by as you go deep inside and allow their words to penetrate your thoughts. Its like their thoughts become your thoughts and their words become your words. And then you might feel an incredible connection, you allow this person to come inside you so deep, as you just let yourself go with this knowing that you can begin to feel safe and warm inside. Its almost as if their voice beginsto take on an actual warmth that comes from a very special loving place in your mind. A place where you think of someone who you deeply love and imagine this voice coming from that place in your mind. Then this voice begins to take on an actually warmth that begin to spread on down. A warmth that begins to spread down into your chest, turning into a fire, a fire heating up and spreading down lower and deeper into a place that a women longs to have it go to the point where your heart starts to beat faster and your breathing increase to the point where you find yourself totally letting go and surrendering to the pleasure completely.
When you really feel a connection with someone, you know that mysterious, timeless link that just makes you feel like you´ve known someone forever...
Like you were meant to know them and it´s almost like you´re looking right at your future...
Like your future is right in front of you... when you feel that it all starts out as an actual physical click a tug that takes place right (raise your hand over your head, point your index finger, and the slowly bring it down straight down the middle of her face, without touching her until you get to her solar plexus, just below her breasts) here.
Can you feel that ( squeeze her hand with your free hand) this is maybe how that can happen...
"Ya know what it's like when you meet someone(sp) who takes you beyond that feeling of friendship into something more?....What's that like for you?...What happens on the inside?" etc then let her tell you what to do.
Note: Good for an accelerator
You: So Bertha, have you always wanted to be a career counselor.
Her: Oh no, I really would like to get into having my own floral design business (or whatever, it really doesn't matter what she says)
You: Isn't it great when you can GET REALLY TURNED ON to a new career goal? Maybe an idea that you've OPENED YOURSELF TO. It's really exciting to HAVE A GOOD HARD idea... MOVING IN AND OUT OF... YOUR MINE? Something that can really get you to pull all your resources and AROUSE ALL THOSE DESIRES in YOUR MINE? And as you FEEL THOSE EMOTIONS OF EXCITEMENT BUILDING deep within you, you FEEL COMPELLED to just GO FOR IT!
Isn't it interesting how different situations affect
us?
Like for example...sometimes when your with certain people you don't really feel at ease with them. (point away) but with other people (self point) you
just can FEEL TOTALLY RELAXED and COMFORTABLE. Like when I....Blah, Blah,Blah, (I give a few examples of how I was extremely comfortable with people, when I was in a hot tub, or with my best friends, familyetc,)
I can tell that you are very intelligent.. You know your mine and I think intelligence is vitally important in a women.
And for me, creativity especially imagination is an important element of intelligence. I mean, intelligent people can usually imagination situations so vividly that they seem completely real to them.
For example, if you were to close your eyes for a second and picture yourself on a warm tropical beach. Can you hear the sound of the waves and the tropical wind over the sand. Can you hear a sea gull fly overhead. And as those sounds reach your ear can you also see the beautiful blue sky and the rolling sea way out deep in the ocean. Can you see the brightness of the area as the sun burns brightly down on your body feeling its rays against your skin and feeling the sand impression you are making in the ground beneath you.
And as you hear, see and feel all this you get a wonderful sense of warm, comfort and safety right in the pit of your stomach that lets you even relax more and let all your cares drift away listening to the waves crash and hearing your lungs breath in the warm fresh tropical air, you see the tops of the waves being blown over by the sea breeze as you feel your skin getting warmer and warmer and the overall sense of comfort and security oozing though every part of your being.
As with each breath you take the rise and fall of your chest allows a glowing color of warmth and serenity to surround you with protection. And the sound of my voice wraps itself around you like warm gentle loving arms, massaging you outside and inside and as you feel these wonderful feelings increasing, you can begin to feel a deep longing beginning to rise inside you from a place you want so much to release pent up feelings from a place that my voice moves resonates inside you wanting to be touched and caressed as you beginning to imagine and begin to feel the wonderful pleasure of all this your breath begins to deepen and your heart begins to pound .. to pound with the deep rich warmth of my voice the rich deep warmth that begins to spread though your chest and thought your belly and deep within your thighs. As the warmth and wetness and the deep rich pounding of your most burning female place the burning female place the pounding burning place that longs to be filled, aches to be filled with my throbbing rock-hard manness and as you feel these things deeper and deeper and more intensely the feeling of my hand as it touches your _ lets you know that you will open yourself up completely and allow this person to come deep inside you releasing all the feelings that have been building and building and building inside you just want to release those feelings in a flood and give of yourself to this person at the time I choose.
By Sonny Havens
"First, each person can visualize the feeling of achievement with crystal clear detail. I mean. perhaps you can just STOP and picture yourself RIGHT NOW achieving your goal."
[***Note: Next interject three sensory experiences that are applicable to the girl - this works as a slight trance primer. For example, if she wanted to be a congresswoman then you might say: "Perhaps you can HEAR the roar of the crowd as they praise you with adulation, SEEING the smiles on their faces as they embrace their new congresswoman. And then you FEEL that
feeling of accomplishment that feeling of success."]
"This is what the article stated as the first step. It went on to say that they can see what they want right in front of them (SP) and as they see it. they can begin to feel how wonderful it would be to have what they want, that which they are looking at (SP)."
"Second, they focus on what is in front of them and they pursue it until it is theirs. They try to get this (SP) with driving ambition and desire. The desire to experience this goal (DP) which they most want. This is what differentiates normal people (point away) who are content with what life just gives them, and those highly successful people (point to her) who seize moments like these (point to you and her) and JUST GO FOR IT!"
"Third, they don't question themselves. They don't have regrets and they ust trust that what they want (SP) is truly the best thing for them and they disassociate any negative thoughts, any restrictions, any inhibitions, any social pressures and constraints and THEY JUST GO FOR IT!"
"So, I don't know if your the kind of person who can just see what she wants and pursue it with driving ambition and determination, but if you were?. Wouldn't it be truly fulfilling to achieve this pleasure of SEXCESS --- WITH ME. I would go for this any day! Wouldn't you?"
Have you ever hung out with someone who you weren´t really attracted to but then, for whatever mysterious reason, you just suddenly found that you started to think things differently and see them in a whole new way? (point)
I mean, I think sometimes people really don´t know what they want, at least consciously... but then it´s like your conscious mind dives down (gesture with both hands to indicate diving down) into your unconscious, and just (gesture with both to indicate coming back up) brings back all those desires and images and feelings into your mind.
I mean like my neighbor looks at me one day, and right out of the blue she takes me by the hands (take her hands) and says, “can you imagine if we were making out, and I was kissing you exactly the way you like to be kissed, touching you exactly the way you liked to be touched, and you were starting to feel incredibly turned on, so turned on you had to have me?”
Can you believe she said that? Now, see, if I had wanted to play back with her? I would say something like, “Oh yeah? Well that feeling you get just before you have an orgasm. When the pleasure is just building and pulsing and throbbing all through your body? If you could imagine that feeling, could you feel that right now? (squeeze her hands as you say this... you´ve now set up an incredibly powerful stacked up anchror!)
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