08a - The Relationship Line - Realist vs Idealist.pdf - Core System - Cosmic700

A Man’s Guide

part 8

Relationship

Line

Realist

vs.

Idealist

Female Mind

The

The Relationship Line: Realist vs. Idealist

his dimension describes a woman’s relationship – and general

strategy for balancing her dating and romantic goals against all other

aspects of her life.

The terms Realist and Idealist really describe how they view their future

life with their partner.

Out of the three dimensions, this is the least likely to change, and tends to

stay pretty constant throughout a woman’s life.

Again the Realist / Idealist dimension is the one that deals with the

conflict between her inner biological drive to be a mother and take care of

her family, and the fast paced, modern society that pushes her to work on

her career.

Again – her biological drive urges her to focus all of her energy on her

family, but society, especially her schooling, urges her to work on her career.

The Realist / Idealist dimension is less of a coping strategy, but more

describes which drive she favors. Of course, every woman will have some

component of each, but there will ALWAYS be one that she favors and

gives priority over the other.

All women have a fear of not finding a great guy to be with, that will

provide and take care of her and her family – but Realists feel the fear the

most, and because of that strive to become completely self-sufficient.

Realist:

The Realist is a woman who is Realistic in the sense that YES, it is possible

– especially with today’s divorce rates – that she will be not end up with a

guy to provide for her.

So she is the type of woman who will focus on her studies and have very

ambitious career goals. She will often be more logical in her thinking and

I’ve met some Realists who were incredibly sharp in business.

Most of the Realists who we met were born with those natural urges to

become housewives, but over the course of growing up and in childhood,

have seen men who were incapable of taking care of their wives or

families. It could have been their father, uncles, or husbands of their

mother’s friends… Either the men left completely, or were just not

suitable to be good supportive husbands.

And then they would also see these women who have their own careers,

who were independent and seemed to be a nice positive reinforcement of

the negative effects of incapable men.

So really – this dimension is all about upbringing, and that’s the reason

why it’s the least likely to change throughout her life.

A few years back, I was in a situation where I was struggling

financially, and I actually met a woman who was a Realist (looking

back she was a NJR). And it turned out she had built and sold a

business, and was very successful.

Having this woman attracted to me, and dating her was a lifesaver… She

would buy me nice new clothes, she would take me out to dinner, take me

on vacations – and she even helped out with critical things I needed like a

stove and refrigerator.

That is very typical when you get a woman who is both an investor and a

Realist…

Other Realists I’ve dated have all been very self-sufficient, they prefer to

pay for or at least SPLIT the bill at dinner, and this is really enjoyable to a

lot of guys.

But in the back of her mind, with that self-sufficiency she is always going to

have a belief that you may not be there for her one day, so she will in a sense

always keep one foot outside the door. And – if she is a Tester, she will be

even more likely to ease that feeling by keeping other guys in her life.

A lot of Realists don’t believe in the idea of marriage. Of course many do

– but out of all the women who have told me they have no desire to get

married, and don’t plan on getting married, they have ALL been Realists.

It’s not that they can’t be in a functional, loving relationship, it’s that they

realize what marriage really is – nothing more than a legal agreement

which binds two people and has very little to do with love.

The real mark of a Realist is her self-sufficiency – which some guys might

confuse with being masculine… but it isn’t. It’s merely because her fears

of being alone are SO great that she resorts to that – but deep down she is

still a woman and using the right strategy you can get complete devotion

and have a very feminine and loving partner.

Recap:

• Realists have a healthy fear of not finding a man to support them

• Realists focus on goals and advancement of their career

• Growing up, Realists had weaker male figures in their life

• Realists are powerful and can take care of you. They actually enjoy it

• Realists always have one foot out the door, unless you PROVE to them

that you will be there for her

Idealist:

An Idealist maintains her IDEAL image of a happy man and woman living

in a house with a white picket fence and a couple very happy kids.

And this image is so strong, that she is willing to overlook the possibility

of it never coming true. She disregards those fears. Of course the fears

will always be there – but they don’t affect the way she dreams, and

relishes in her fantasy of having a perfect family someday.

Most Idealists were brought up around capable men who were happy

in their natural supporting roles. Many Idealists came from families

that stayed together, and the parents never got divorced, their dad was

successful, and their mom was an awesome housewife and cook, maybe

she had a job, maybe not – or she grew up meeting boys who loved her

and really took care of her naturally.

As a result she would naturally be less ambitious about the future because

she has a strong feeling that she would be taken care of.

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