Handed out at the June 2000 Advanced Speed Seduction TM Seminar
Ross's Super Rule For Success:
**Whatever u can get a person 2 IMAGINE is perceived by that person as being their own thought, and there4 they do not resist it. Whatever u have 2give a person reasons, facts or data4is perceived by them as coming from outside themselves, and there4 usuallyll b resisted. There4 2 have the power to persuade in ANY area of life u must 1st ...
CAPTURE AND LEAD THE OTHER PERSON'S IMAGINATION!
Speed Seduction is about altered states of consciousness: A. Building the ideal altered states 4u to operate out of! B. Building new and exciting altered states for the chicks you desire!
What we r really teaching u 2do is 2create a framework of convo that allows u 2induce very powerful emotional states in women, and link those states 2u.
The Two Key Speed Seduction Formulas For Banging Babes Like CRAZY!
Formula #1: For Pick‑Ups/Initial Approaches and Breaking A Woman's Resistance! 1.Break the woman's current state/fixed belief set. 2. Focus her attention on u. 3. Take control of her internal representations.
Formula #2: For Virtually ANY Situation! 1. Create the state 2. Bind/link it 2u 3.Amplify
Basic Principles:
*Look 4an opening‑at 1st u might have 2test different approaches 2get a strong response.
*People r basically hypnosis machines. They know how 2resist being given reasons and data and info, but they AREN'T used 2having the process and direction of their thoughts shaped and directed, so they DON'T resist that.
*Every decision is constantly being remade and every decision is state dependent. If u don't like the decision, change the state 1st.
*Time distortion is perhaps the most powerful tool u can use. If u don't want any resistance or want 2get past resistance u do encounter, take some1 into a future where they r looking back on already having given u what u want and already having enjoyed it immensely. How can they resist what their mind things has already happened?
*However u can do it, create states of powerful emotional connection, b4 moving on 2 sexual arousal,
Time Distortion
Key time distortion phrases are: After u ... After we ... Won't it be great after ... Looking forward 2 ... Imagine a time in the future Ex: *Time distortion used in incredible connection patterns*
Scope Ambiguity
Scope ambiguity is a great way 2put a person's mind on hold and set them up 4a time distortion or any other pattern . (ANY kind of ambiguityll create a blank in a person's mind that u can then DIRECT them how 2fill in)
Scope ambiguity works cause the person can't tell who the sentence refers to:
“Speaking 2u as a person who loves 2learn ...” “Speaking 2u as a person who can loves 2 laugh ...”
Example of scope ambiguity AND time distortion:
1. Make 'em laugh Speaking 2u as a person who loves 2laugh, won't it b great AFTER we've had coffee and laughed and felt really comfy together? Then u can just look back on it all, smile and think 2 urself, “That was 1of the best times I've ever had!” Thinking about it like that, doesn't just make sense that we go?” ...
Other Types Of Ambiguity
Tonal Ambiguity: I find that when I feel really connected wsome1, I BEGIN 2HAVE CERTAIN THOUGHTS.
Meaning ambiguity: Can you FEEL THAT?
Punctuation ambiguity: Isn't it great when u absolutely connect wsome1? Wme, I sure enjoy that powerful experience
Phonetic ambiguity: u may think those thoughts are above me, but really I think they're blow me.
Set‑ups, Transitions, Bridges and other cool stuff:
Set ups r used 2make the bringing up the patterns seem part of a normal convo. Some great set‑ups r:
“You know, I was thinking the other day about ...” “My friend and I were talking the other day, and she was saying ...” “I was listening to these self‑help tapes, and the guy was talking about “ “You ever wonder about ...”
Bridges or Transitions r used 2move from 1pattern 2the next. Some great bridges or transitions r:
“And here's something else I've learned ...” “Now, another interesting thing is ...” “And when that happens, I think maybe then you ...” “Isn't that interesting? Now, check THIS out! ...”
Notes on quotes: Keep in mind quotess an excellent way 2set up virtually any pattern. It can b used 2not only create an emotional connection or sexual arousal but also 2test the limits of what a personll respond 2favorably.
4ex, on a date, u could look right at her, and say,
“u know, at this point in the evening, I know there r some guys who would lean forward, look right at u and say, “I'd like 2take u home now, and fuck u like u've never ever had it b4!”
Now, IF she lights up, her pupils dilate, and she maybe even says, “YEAH!”, then you know to go for it! If she winces or looks upset you say, “But I know YOU require a much more sensitive, subtle, and caring approach from me.”
Presuppositions
A presupposition is anything that has to be assumed in order for the rest of a statement to be true. For example, in the sentence:
Did you see John driving in his new red car?
The presupposition is that John has a new red car.
Presuppositions are powerful tools for setting up the direction of a woman's … thoughts.
How many presuppositions can you find in the following statement?
“After you've fallen for me completely and discovered just how wonderful that feels, I'm wondering if you'll be willing to share with me just exactly what it was about me that caused you to come to that conclusion, because alot of women say it's my sense of humor. I do make you laugh, don't I?”
Note in the sentence above we've used different kinds of presuppositions:
Presuppositions of time: AFTER
Presuppositions of awareness: DISCOVERED, CONCLUSION
The Power of “STOP”
Sometimes it can be useful to interrupt the direction or pattern of someone's thoughts, particularly when they are disobeying! The word “STOP” is great for doing this. When you tell a person who is disagreeing to “STOP”; they do, at least momentarily. The trick is to seize on that moment to present in a compelling way a new direction for their mind to take.
Her: Sorry, I'd like to go out with you, but I have a boyfriend.
You: Well of course. I wouldn't expect you to just STOP and BEGIN TO IMAGINE how much fun it would be to spend a little time with me anyway. Because I realize that relationships ARE important; in fact they are so important that part of a really important relationship is realizing that it's ok to have friends outside of, or even as part of that relationship, cause it's proof that the relationship is strong and is based on trust and valuing the other person's freedom as well. So looking at it like that, why don't we just meet for coffee sometime? Would Thursday work, or does Saturday sound better???
Another Satisfied Customer Writes
Hello Ross,
I'm writing to you to say that Speed Seduction is brilliant. I've started seriously studying/applying Speed Seduction recently with astounding results.
I met a young lady on an internet chat room. I started using little chunks of patterns on her (Instantaneous connection, time distortion) and within 90 minutes of online chatting she gave me her home phone number and wanted to speak to me because she felt so comfortable and felt like she's known me a long time.
I called her a few days later and ran the “instantaneous connection” pattern on her in its entirety and then read her some poems (“Love Drops” by Taylor). By then she was hooked. She started leaving phone messages and e‑mail daily. She told me she was fantasizing about me constantly, dreaming about me nightly, and getting so aroused that her panties were wet constantly!
Then she drops the bomb; she tells me she wants to fly out from L.A. to N.Y. to visit me at her own expense and I wouldn't have to spend a penny! She said she wanted me in the worst way and that she would ride my cock like the teacups at Disneyland!
To make a long story short, we exchanged pictures.(She's HOP). On March 29, 1997, she flew in to NY from CA and from the moment she got off the plane, she couldn't keep her hands off of me! We spent four days in her hotel room. with her riding my baloney pony most of the time!
Speed Seduction has worked beyond my wildest imagination. This stuff can work for anyone; I'm not in the best shape physically. I've very overweight and I'm not considered handsome. In fact, I look like a black Jabba the Hut!
None of this matters when you use Speed Seduction! In fact, very recently I seduced another young woman into giving me oral sex by using your Blow Job Pattern!
I've become unstoppable and if any one wants to call me I'll answer questions about my success with your pro‑ram. My number is 718‑992‑3551.
Mack Riddick
New York, New York
P. S.
Here are some of the email messages she sent me:
From: XXXX
To: Mridd54288
I love talking to you at anytime. I long for the day when we can be together. When our bodies can be intertwined as one. I hope that you are as much in anticipation as I am. Everytime I talk to you, I fell like you bring out things in me that I did not even know that was there or maybe I knew they were there but no one had ever brought them out of me before. I could probably search the rest of my life and never find a person that makes me feel the way you do. I was married for 13 years and I never felt about my husband at any time the way I feel when I talk to you. What is it about you that makes me feel this way?
I am looking forward to my visit with you. I am not sure if we will make it to the hotel before I will feel the need to rip off your clothes. You had better watch out! You will be able to tell my plane because my plane will be the one with the smoking wings! It will be very hard for me to keep my hands off you! I am going to start at your toes and work my way up to the top of your head. Then I am going to take the fresh fruit and squeeze the juice from it and put it all over you. And lick it all of until it is all gone ... I like it when it is wet and stick!
And this is what she sent after we spent the 4 days together:
I just cannot get the time we spent out of my head.
I wake up in the middle of the night reaching for you, but of course you are not there. If I was not hooked before I surely am now. I don't know what it was that you did to me but I can't stop thinking about you! I feel like I have found this new level of being pleased and it took a 3000 mile trip and 15 years to find this. All I can say is that if this is what it would be like to spend the rest of my life with you then OH BOY! I am glad I took a chance on you. Normally I would not, but there is something about you. You have made me see men and life in a new way. I have always said that I should not have to settle for anything I do not want and you truly have made me realize that more and more. I can't wait ‘til we can be together again in person. I can see why it is that I feel the way that I do about you because you have a way of reaching into me and pulling out things that I did not know were inside or things that I knew were there but were afraid of letting out. I LOVE YOU!
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Harold Shore, Reply to Ross
In a recent note about Rex Sikes and Idea Seminars, I mentioned Ross's work on Speed Seduction. Ross posted a reply that he didn't know if Rex would want to be thought of in the same context as Speed Seduction. But I think people in this group should have a better understanding of the value of Ross's skill and teaching.
I had first heard of Milton Erickson back in the seventies when some guy who was reading this funny book called “Structure of Magic” seduced my second wife.
Years later, in 1994 I responded to this weird ad about something called Speed Seduction, and, being skeptical, I thought that seduction would be a wonderful way of seeing whether this NLP stuff really worked. After all, it would be clear whether the technique is effective ‑ you either got laid or you didn't! And part of my surprise in exploring Ross's teachings was how powerful they really are ^ I had success that astonished me using his system. Women who professed to be dead set against any involvement with any man ended up begging for it within a few hours. (Modified blammo pattern, delivered with lots of fluff as internal spacing.) Later, “challenge” women, like the DA in charge of sex harassment cases in a large local city, became my lovers. (We were doing a barbecue and she was telling me how she was going to become a judge. She liked powerful men, she told me. I just got impatient with her and snapped at her to fix the food. She responded by stripping for me right there and then ‑ in her backyard!) So, for me Ross's system was good personal proof that NLP was very powerful.
I mention the way these seductions worked because Kenrick is going around telling everyone that Ross only teaches prepackaged patterns. But even in the beginner's course, Ross always belabored HOW he was making up the patterns. (In fact, other guys I've known who memorized the patterns as a whole didn't have as much success.)
And it was from Ross that I first became aware of Rex Sikes and Idea Seminars. Ross sells some tapes of other trainers ^ mostly Bandler and Sikes ^ and in my fascinated exploration of these I came to appreciate the opportunity the Idea Seminars presented. If someone as skilled as Ross would go to study DHE with Rex, well, that was significant for me.
When I finally was able to do practitioner and master training with Rex, some other students were at first disapproving of Ross's work when I would mention how I got into this. However, they soon noticed that I was very fluent in using embedded commands, future paces, “I‑You” shifts, and the like ‑ skills which I had learned while drilling with the Speed Seduction material. So much that they became more willing to look more carefully into Speed Seduction as a powerful form of “in the street” persuasion.
As I have continued to follow Jeffries' work, I've been impressed by his creativity in coming up with new subtle patterns of calibrating ^ like the “challenge pattern “ which can be used perfectly unobtrusively even at the beginning of a conversation to naturally elicit metaprograms and values. It is true it can be used with awesome power for seduction. But it has many uses; when I worked for a computer consulting firm, I used it to screen prospective employees. And it was from Ross that I learned to suggest that my outcome has already happened. When I'm interviewing as a consultant I like to point our that one thing they'll never see on my resume is just how it'll be in terms of teamwork in this new environment. I go on to tell a detailed story about how it might he as we develop projects, work through the inevitable “crunches” and even celebrate at the end ^ 'cause then we'll look back at today and be glad we raised the issue of teamwork now, because it is an important issue, isn't it? This mix of the future pacing from the ratchet pattern and the incredible connection pattern is often immediately responded to with a job offer; they don't even bother to ask me my rate!
And to some extent, I used these skills in finding my current partner. Seduction wasn't the issue ^ getting her to view my past in a more open‑minded way (3 previous marriages) was what I needed to do. After all, as I pointed out to her, only she could convince herself that what had happened in my life was really a resource, not a problem. We were married in Manila last December.
So I see Ross as a powerful asset to the NLP community in that he awakens people to a power of communication which can help them live happier, more, at cause” lives. As I turn to my own explorations in this area, I want to take this public opportunity to say “Thanks, Ross!”
Introduction To NLP
I. What Is NLP?
1. A way of looking at the human mind and behavior.
2. A methodology for studying and duplicating talent.
3. Thinking about thinking.
4. A set of tools for:
a. changing behaviors and beliefs
b. creating rapport and exerting influence
c. discovering how people tick
5. A set of beliefs and premises.
6. An attitude of ferocious curiosity, resolve and playfulness.
7. A model for inducing and utilizing hypnosis.
II. The Schools of NLP
In understanding NLP, the metaphor of martial arts can prove useful. Just as their are different styles and schools of martial arts, with no one style representing the “true martial art” so are their different schools and styles of NLP. (I'll tell you mind but with only a little observation you should be able to quickly tell). In my humble opinion, here they are:
1. The New Age, white‑light, everything‑is‑beautiful school‑best represented by Steve and Connirae Andreas, Tad James and others. These folks tend to emphasize NLP's healing aspects and enjoy reveling in the “warm fuzzies” they get. Not my cup of tea, but to their credit they do a lot of good.
2. The academic, scientific school‑best represented by John Grinder, co‑founder of NLP and the very brilliant Robert Dilts who is the leader in using NLP for physical healing. While I have the greatest possible respect for the intelligence of these folks (Dilts is unbelievably intelligent and innovative) their presentations can be, a bit “dry” to be charitable. If you like an academic approach, go for it.
3. The kick butt, take‑no‑prisoners, your tushy is mine school‑best represented by Richard Bandler, the co‑founder of NLP. and, in my opinion, the creative genius that is at the heart and soul of it all. Also Rex Sikes, John Lavalle, and Carmine Baff a, all of whom you should train with if you ever get the chance.
4. The infomercial, evangelical, emotion filled weekend seminar school‑only one guy is in this one, and everyone else who thinks they are is just trying to imitate him: Tony “Glitter Teeth” Robbins. Tony has his detractors but what can I say? I like the guy and he's integrated some important general success principles that the other schools haven't. Good boy, Tony. Now come walk across these red hot frying pans!
Premises and Principles of NLP
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