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READING MINDS
Derren Brown
WHAT IT ALL MEANS
The basis of all persuasive technique and mind control effects is rapport.
This concept has been blown out of all proportion by gurus in the
therapy and management training fields, but a basic understanding of
what it means is worth having.
RAPPORT
Having rapport with somebody means that the two of you are enjoying
easy company with each other, and usually implies that you are acting
and talking in similar ways. I'm sure you've had the experience of
getting on with somebody very quickly and soon finding that you both
seem to know where the other is coming from. By contrast, we've all
endured trying to hold a conversation with someone who just doesn't
seem to click with anything we have to say.
Since the 1970s, rapport has been studied and turned into a high-
powered 'skill' that supposedly can be learned and then turned on when a
person wishes to gain persuasive influence over somebody. The theory
works like this: people in rapport with each other tend to mirror each
other's body language, use similar speech patterns and even breathe and
blink at the same rate – the outward signs of a comfortable and free-
flowing interaction.
Certainly this is true – if you shift position during a conversation with a
friend, you'll find that he or she will soon follow to keep that
unconscious rapport going. Similarly, you may be aware that you talk or
act a little differently with one group of people than you do with another.
You do this to allow what you have in common with each group to
flourish and so ensure that your rapport with them is maintained.
MIRRORING
However, the gurus in this field then say that, by consciously showing
the outward signs of rapport – that is, by deliberately mirroring
someone's body language and feeding back their vocabulary, ideas and
breathing rate – you will automatically create rapport and really put the
other person at ease. Despite its twisted logic, this sounds plausible –
but, in practice, you are likely to appear less an easy conversational
partner and more a person with a mental illness!
There's a good reason for this. When those outward signs normally
occur, they are the signals that something unconscious and natural is
occurring. Faking them just doesn't feel right to the other party and can
be quite alienating.
SIGNALS
You don't need to take a training course in communication skills to be
able to put someone at their ease. When a person meets you for the first
time, they will be open to any signals you give them about who you are
and how the two of you are going to relate – much as I tried to put you at
your ease at the beginning of the video clip.
If you have already decided – perhaps unconsciously – that the person
you are about to meet isn't going to like you, the chances are that you
will give off signals that show an uneasy rapport and a presumption of
dislike between you. Therefore you tend to get what you expect.
If, on the other hand, you walk into a situation having decided that you
are immensely likeable and worth knowing (even if you have to fake it
...), you'll find, all other things being equal, that you get a better
response. And then as more people respond well to you, you start to
change your own opinions about yourself.
BEHAVIOUR
So, when approaching new acquaintances with whom you wish to
establish rapport, decide beforehand that you are going to be very
interested in them and what they have to say, and that you want them to
feel comfortable and good. And
don't
fake it and
don't
overdo it!
Smiling too much and touching a near-stranger's elbow all the time will
make you seem like a moron, not a potential friend. People respond to
natural, easy-going, confident behaviour.
And remember: if you do have to fake it and then fake it quite well, you
are actually being that confident person in that situation. It's just
behaviour!
PATTERNS
I develop that rapport by learning to see the situation from the
perspective of the other person, not my own. Consider what happens in a
normal conversation. Someone sits and talks about themselves, while
you pick up on a few things that relate to you. You wait for then to finish
so that you can say, 'Yes, I ...' and then start talking about yourself. They
then responds by returning to their own stories and opinions, and so the
dialogue continues. In other words, you are listening to someone to see
how the conversation relates to you.
(DETTA ÄR GRYMT BRA:)Now consider the alternative: you listen to
whatever they have to say to learn how the content of their conversation
relates to
them
. You build in your mind a representation of their way of
seeing the world, and you piece together their patterns. People love
talking about themselves, so you can happily ask any questions to
complete those patterns and gain more information about their world.
After a while, this will become almost second nature to you, and you
will be able simply to look at someone and tell almost immediately what
their reactions to various stimuli might be.
MIND CONTROL?
Once you understand someone else's perception of a situation, you can
mentally exist inside their heads. If they want you to sort out a problem
for them, you can do so more effectively, for you are not letting your
own prejudices and ideas get in the way.
It is from this starting point that I can begin to play with the mind
control for which I am known. It's not that I am really controlling other
people. Rather, I am seeing events through their eyes and second-
guessing their responses and thoughts. It's great fun.
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